Going to the Offender

by Charlotte Cosden

Because God is an ALL HOLY GOD, He can only deal in total TRUTH. He cannot deal in falsehood, nor can he deal in Half-Truth. He has the ability to see the depth of our HEART.

True, Holy, Pure Love for the brethren has no fear. An integral person is one who, when offended will go DIRECTLY TO THE OFFENDER. If they want to defend themselves, (love themselves), they will go to someone else, and feel justified, (deception), because their love is not totally pure for the one who has offended them, PERFECT LOVE CASTS OUT FEAR.

Still, some others, go to no one, and suppress their hurt. In time this will fester in the mind, and before long, they will begin to entertain false imaginings about the person who has hurt their feelings.

A mature Christian perfected in LOVE, will first go ALONE to the Lord, and if the Lord instructs, will  then be prepared to confront the offender in LOVE. Some of the positive results that come from obeying God's Word in (MATT: 5:24, 24), are as follows: Going DIRECTLY to the offender is not going to your best friend, your husband, your pastor, etc. It means EXACTLY WHAT THE WORD SAYS, "LEAVE YOUR OFFERING AT THE ALTER AND GO YOUR WAY: BE RECONCILED."

Going to the offender:
1. Gives the person the opportunity to ask forgiveness.
2. Gives the insensitive person the opportunity to be more sensitive.
3. Gives the person an opportunity to explain themselves (Maybe thy are not even aware that you are hurt).
4. Gives God an opportunity to teach both of you what you both need to grow in concerning your relationship with Him, and with each other.

Most people will say, "Well, I didn't want to judge, or offend the other person". TELLING SOMEONE ELSE IS JUDGING, AND OFFENDING the other person, only worse!!!! IT IS SLANDER AND SIN, AND WILL CAUSE DIVISION.

The Word of God says, "Presumption leads to strife".

QUESTION TO THINK ABOUT:
Who has REALLY (TRUTHFULLY) sinned? Has it been the one who has perhaps unintentionally hurt your feelings, or is it the one who has taken the reputation of another into their own hands, and fed their own self-pity at the expense of another? "But I didn't want to hurt their feelings". Going DIRECTLY to the offender "may" hurt their feelings,, and bring HELP, but going to someone else will CRUSH THEIR SPIRIT, and bring DIVISION, and eventually DESTRUCTION!

"LOVE IS PATIENT-LOVE IS KIND"

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